Getting married at an exotic or distant location is what every couple dreams of but trust us, a destination wedding isn’t for everybody. It requires lots of planning and you have to take care of logistics as well. It’s not easy to carry so much stuff with you and at the same time make so many arrangements for the guests coming for your wedding. In spite of all these people want to go for it as it enables the couple to have a gala time with all the friends and family.
We can totally understand the fact that you think it’s a great idea to have a destination wedding but your parents don’t. Also, you definitely don’t have to give up your plans of a far-flung wedding, there are reasonable concessions you can make to keep the peace at your home and make your dream wedding turn into reality with your family totally agreeing with it.
If you are planning to tie the knot at a gorgeous beach resort or want to have royal feels and go for a palace or fort in Rajasthan to make your celebration dreamy then you have to be on the same page with your family. For some of your family members travelling with so much stuff can be a nightmare, and that’s mostly because of the travelling or the cost. But how about you make them trust you that this will be a celebration that everyone will be happy they attended? Here are common-sense advice below before your next talk with the family to convince them for your destination wedding.
Firstly, start with… what’s stopping them
You need to ask specifically what they object to in the whole planning of destination wedding. There are chances that they are only complaining about the idea of a destination wedding without telling any details about what’s bothering them, so you need to find out. There must be a list of reasons such as are the elderly relatives are finding the destination too far for to get to? Is your choice of the resort you have chosen is going out of the budget? Do your parents think that you should get married in the same city where everyone can easily commute for all the functions? No decision or compromise can’t be made until you understand exactly what their concerns are. You need to discuss this with them openly!
You need to address their concerns one by one
Indian weddings have so many functions to celebrate so maybe your parents are concerned that it would be too time taking to reach the destination. Some may have to book flights to reach there and then you also have to make arrangements for their commute as well, which is again a task! Therefore, you may have to choose something more feasible! For example, if you live in North India, then you can go to places nearby such as Delhi NCR, Jim Corbett, Rajasthan and so on. If you live in the west or south then you can definitely hit the beaches of Goa! There is a beautiful resort Udman, Greater Noida that is designed to host some beautiful destination weddings.
Your parents may also be concerned that your far-flung wedding won’t be incorporate all the guests that are important to the family as you must be hosting away from your place? Perhaps you could consider an intimate, reception at your hometown as well to appease the family, then party your way at the destination.
If cost is an issue? Then you can offer a range of different hotel options for guests, including more affordable properties, or try to haggle with subsidizing cost however possible. You should come up with hotels options in three price points: budget, moderate, and luxe. You can also look into group discounts, book Airbnbs, and whatever else you can find to make your wedding as desirable as possible to your guest list. Keep your guests updated about the wedding plans or itineraries.
Last, but the most important, thing to do, explain why you want a wedding away from home
Make them understand that it’s your dream to marry somewhere exotic by the beach or somewhere in Jaipur or Udaipur in a royal setting that too with a small guest list. Tell them that you don’t want a grand affair at a venue with more than 500 people which you don’t even know properly! It’s your special day and you want to celebrate with your own people to whom your wedding is more than just a party with food and drinks. They are your family they will understand your emotions regarding your special day!
In the end, we just want to say, stay calm and discuss with both sides of the family to make your wedding a dreamy affair!
